很多事情，你應該選擇最愛的那個，除了結婚。
吃飯要選最愛吃的，人生如白駒過隙，不可虧待自己。買衣服要選最愛的那款，佛靠金裝，人靠衣裝，三分長相，七分打扮。
買房要選最愛的，通常是要住半輩子的，不可敷衍馬虎，每天將回家當成服刑，最後不得不學孟母三遷。
上大學要選最愛的，那是你最美的青春韶光，不可辜負了似水年華。
讀書、看電影要選最愛的，別將享受變成痛苦，要善待自己的精神家園。
遊玩要選最愛的地方，江山如此多嬌，美景不僅養眼，更是對心靈的一種洗滌淨化。
可是，結婚，別選最愛的那個。
要選你最喜歡的那個，淡淡一點愛，暗香浮動月黃昏，不必轟轟烈烈，日出江花紅勝火。有點火花，但不至燃成灰燼，才能保全婚姻，才能善始善終，天長地久。
火燒阿房宮固然蔚為壯觀，但終成千古遺恨，遠不如一盞小桔燈來得溫馨悠久。月滿則虧，水滿則溢。
只是喜歡他，就不會有太多的要求，喜歡他的自然，喜歡他的率真，喜歡他就是他；
如果深愛他，你就會想方設法地改變他，總希望按自己的模式將他重新打造。
最終卻成邯鄲學步，面目全非，他煩不勝煩，你絕望透頂，當初的喜歡也不復存在了。
從喜歡可以過段到愛，但愛過之後卻難以再言喜歡。
不是所有的過程都可逆，覆水難收，相看兩生厭，終成怨偶。
只是喜歡他
你想起他時會微笑，面對他時會喜悅，小別也不會太過煎熬，輕舟已過萬重山；如果深愛他，想他時心痛，相處時神傷，別離往往令你心碎，多情自古傷離別，相顧無言，唯有淚千行。相愛簡單，相處太難。只是喜歡他，你想他的時候自然就給他打電話了；
如果深愛他，則患得患失，千方百計地去考驗對方的愛會不會比自己的少了幾兩幾錢，猜來猜去也猜不明白，愁紅慘綠，心力憔悴，疲憊不堪。
只是喜歡他，你會為他付出，但不會喪失自我，你還是你自己，擁有獨立的空間，暢快地呼吸，自由地游來游去；
如果深愛他，你活著的全部意義是因為他，他佔據了你整個的心靈和時間，先愛人之憂而憂，後愛人之樂而樂。戰戰兢兢，唯恐稍有閃失，失之毫釐謬以千里。
一個連自我都留不住的人，還想擁有什麼呢？愛情？未免太不現實，和盤托出必將滿盤皆輸。
當你一門心思在家為對方打點一切時，卻不曾發現愛人的心已離你越來越遠，愛人的眼神變得越來越縹緲，共同語言變得越來越少。
不能同步的愛是脆弱的，不堪一擊。愛情已成枷鎖，圍城已然變為危城，不自由，毋寧死。令人窒息的愛，除了放手再無出路。
那麼，愛和喜歡如何判斷呢？
如果我的這篇文字觸動了你，你看了一遍，想到了一個人，微微一笑，心兒動了一下，這個便是你喜歡的；如果你看了又看，想了又想，迫不及待地對號入座卻又遲遲不敢確定，心兒一直跳個不停，此刻的那個，便是你深愛的。
如果你還沒結婚，恭喜你還有選擇的機會，風物長宜放眼量。
如果結婚了，選了你喜歡的，有點淡淡的愛，那麼，恭喜你。
如果結婚了，選了最愛的，恰巧對方也最愛你，天造地設，神仙美眷，唯有祝福。
如果結婚了，選了最愛的，但對方並不深愛你，那麼，我只好恭喜他了。
結婚，別選最愛的那個，信不信由你。
A lot of things, you should choose your favorite, in addition to marriage.
Dinner to choose favorite, Life is like a fleeting, can not be hard on myself.
Buy clothes to choose favorite models, the Buddha by Gold, clothes make the man, one-third of the looks, seven dress.
To choose to buy a house favorite, usually you want to live the rest of your life, not perfunctory sloppy, a day will go home as serving, and finally had to learn Meng Mu moved three.
College to choose a favorite, it is your most beautiful youth Shaoguang not live up to the Things Past.
Reading, watching movies to choose a favorite, do not enjoy becomes painful, to be kind to their spiritual home.
Play to choose favorite place to land so rich in beauty, beauty is not only seductive, purification is a washing of the soul.
However, to get married, do not choose your favorite one.
To choose your favorite one, touch a little love, subtle fragrance floating on the evening, do not have vigorous, Sunrise River Flaming Red. A little spark, but not to burning into ashes, in order to preserve the marriage, in order to finish the job, forever. Fire Fanggong is certainly spectacular, but eventually became eternal grudge nowhere near like a small orange lamp lights warm atmosphere that long. The moon is Waning, water overflows.
Just like him, there would be too much to ask, like his natural, like his outspoken, like he is; if you love him, you'll find ways to change his always want to press his own mode build. Eventually into imitate others beyond recognition, he get bored, you're desperate to downright like original no longer exists. From the likes segment to love, but love is difficult to speak of love. Not all processes are reversible, turning back, watch two boring phase, and eventually became estranged couple.
Just like him, you think he will smile, will face his joy, small do not be too torment, my boat these ten thousand mountains; If you love him, want him heartache, grief, parting often make when dealing It breaks your heart, passionate ancient times hurt parting, the same care for silence, only tears of a thousand lines. Love simple too difficult to get along.
Just like him, you want him when nature called him; if you love him, you worry about the outcome, do everything possible to test each other's love will not be less than their own two a few money go in guessing guess not understand, worry about the red pathetic state, mentally exhausted, tired.
Just like him, you will pay for his loss of self, but not, you still have your own, independent space invigorating to breathe freely swim around; if you love him, you live the full meaning because , he occupied the whole of your mind and time, first love in fear and worry, after the joy of the music lover. Trepidation, fearing that a slight slip, miss is as good hack away. Even self are unable to retain people, would like to have what? Love? It would be too unrealistic to make a clean breast is bound to lose the whole game.
When you obsessed with at home for all the other RBI They have never once found a lover's heart is farther and farther away from you the lover eyes become more and more ethereal, a common language is becoming less and less. Love can not be synchronized fragile, vulnerable. Love has become the shackles, the siege already become Siege, liberty, or give me death. Suffocating love, in addition to let go and no way out.
Well, love and how to judge it?
If this text touches you
you read it again, think of a person, a smile, heart children move, and this is what you like; if you looked and looked, and thought and thought and can not wait to pigeon-holing but hesitates to determine heart stop dancing children, at the moment, is that you loved.
If you are not married, the opportunity to congratulate you choose there always advisable to wait amount.
If married, chose what you like, a little touch of love, then, congratulations.
If married, the election favorite happens to the other loves you match made in heaven, the gods Meijuan only blessing.
If married, the election favorite, but the other does not love you, then I have to congratulate him.
Marriage, do not choose a favorite, believe it or not.
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